by Dr Karen O’Donnell, Director of Studies at Westcott House Cambridge where she teaches Worship and Liturgy. She also teaches Gender and Christian Theology for the Divinity Faculty, University of Cambridge. She has published widely in trauma and feminist theologies.

As a feminist theologian, the two contexts in which I find myself thinking about consent are in discussions about sex and in conversations about the ethics of research. As a theologian interested in trauma, discussions around sexual consent are often wrapped up with distressing accounts of rape and sexual abuse where consent was not sought, not given, or not meant if it was given. In the context of theological research, however, discussions around consent are often quite perfunctory. Students often consider the ethical questions around consent to be a hoop to jump through, to get their projects approved by the ethics committee. It’s fascinating that these two discussions of consent are so different; in one, consent is paramount and there is much discussion around the insufficiency of consent as a category for good, ethical sex. In the other, consent is the signature on a piece of paper allowing the researcher to begin.
What might it mean to bring the concerns around the in/sufficiency of consent for good, ethical sex, into dialogue with theological empirical research?
Theology has been tangled up with desire, sex, and penetration for centuries. In the work of the late Marcella Althaus-Reid we find the explicit recognition that ‘theology is a sexual act’. She writes:
Theology is a sexual ideology performed in a sacralising pattern: it is the sexual divinised orthodoxy (right sexual dogma) and orthopraxy (right sexual behaviour); theology is a sexual action. Theologians, therefore, are nothing else but sexual performers… [1]
When it comes to empirical theological research, too, theology is a sexual act; specifically, it is an act of BDSM.[2] Here, I specifically want to draw a parallel to a BDSM scene between a dominant and a submissive. This might seem an unlikely parallel to draw but I think it is an important one. Christianity has an entwined relationship with power, both positively and negatively. In a postmodern age, where we are more attentive to power dynamics, abuses of power, and the ways in which the church has been complicit with such abuses, we must reflect carefully on our relationship with power. Whilst reflecting on this through the lens of BDSM might be uncomfortable, it creates a dissonance that offers a helpful interruption and opportunity to reconsider what we take for granted in terms of power. It’s also a great opportunity to learn from a community that has wrestled carefully with both issues of consent and power dynamics. Some researchers have even suggested that there is a spiritual dimension at play in BDSM itself!
So, imagine the theological research interview as a BDSM scene: theology is the dominant discourse, making the theologian the ‘dominant’. The dominant/theologian sets the parameters of the scene/interview. They have a significant amount of power within the scene (and likely away from it too). The submissive/research participant has to trust that the dominant/theologian will do what they have said they will do and will not stray from the previously proscribed limits. The dominant/theologian engages in the scene to get their (research) needs met.
Central to many experiences of BDSM is the concept of power or, more precisely, an unequable distribution of power between those engaged in the act. But this power is fluid, dynamic and difficult to pinpoint. Of course, the person in the dominant role holds plenty of power. However, this is not the only place where power lies. The submissive often has plenty of power too.[3] One submissive notes: ‘I’m the one who decides what will happen… how it will happen… how far it will go. I call him master but it’s my needs that are being met.’[4]
In the BDSM community, the ethical model of consensual BDSM participation has long been a topic of discussion. Among BDSM practitioners and advocates, consent is of primary, nearly summary, ethical import.[5] Within the BDSM community, the giving of consent is largely understood not as a onetime thing but as something negotiated before an activity takes place and also as an ongoing, relational dialogue. The use of safewords to slow down or to completely end a scene represents this ongoing relational dialogue of consent. Consent is seen as an ongoing conversation respecting all parties and drawing on the wisdom of all those involved.
What does this mean for seeing the empirical theological research act as a manifestation of a BDSM scene? Imagine a theological research interview in which the researcher and participant negotiated what the scene would look like beforehand; where the limits of the research interview were agreed and a safeword put in place to guard those limits.
Imagine a theological research interview which recognises the power of the submissive/research participant, as the one holding the answers the dominant/theologian wants. How would the power of the submissive/research participant shape, allow and restrict the direction of the research interview?
Imagine a theological research interview where the primary concern of the dominant/theologian was not the meeting of her research needs but the pleasure and satisfaction of the submissive/research participant. What would it mean to put the pleasure and satisfaction of the research participant first, even before the gathering of research data? What might it mean to ensure that there even was pleasure for the submissive/research participant in the course of theological empirical research?
A crucial part of the dominant role is providing aftercare to the submissive, recognising the intense sensations and emotions the submissive has experienced. What would such aftercare look like in the context of a theological empirical research scene that has potentially stripped the submissive/research participant bare and exposed them intimately to the dominant/theologian? Imagine building aftercare into such a research scene.
This praxis of consent requires hard work on the part of the dominant/theologian to develop their attunement and empathy to the verbal and non-verbal cues of the submissive/research participant. This praxis of consent requires a shift into the language and attitude of invitation and hospitality in which the needs and pleasure of the other are primary, driving forces such that, in the aftermath, gratitude might flow in both directions. We might consider this mode of conversation as a potential gift to some of the challenging conversations currently taking place within the church. What might it mean to put the needs and pleasure of the other first in conversations around same-sex relationships for example? Or to aim for dialogue in which power dynamics were disrupted so thoroughly that gratitude—and indeed pleasure—might flow in both directions? Years ago, Rowan Williams made the point that the opposite of intolerance was not tolerance but rather hospitality. This is paramount in theological research design, but it is also essential in the lives of Christians in the church.








