Equal Marriage – 1928 Style

Revd Canon Dr Judith Maltby is Chaplain, Fellow and Dean of Welfare of Corpus Christi College, Reader in Church History in the University of Oxford, and a member of the General Synod of the Church of England.

One of the things that struck me forcibly during the February 2023 debate on Living in Love and Faith at General Synod was the repeated reference to the ‘doctrine of marriage’, as though this was a constant and fixed set of ideas throughout time. In the debate, only Revd Dr Miranda Threlfall-Holmes challenged this assumption.[1]  Another striking theme, for the more punitively minded, was how bishops might be disciplined for their apparent departure from orthodoxy.

All this was a response to the modest proposals brought to Synod by the House of Bishops, proposals emerging out of the six-year long Living in Love and Faith process. The bishops maintain that their proposals do not alter the ‘doctrine of marriage’. Marriage remains, in the words of canon B30, ‘a union permanent and lifelong, for better for worse, till death them do part, of one man with one woman’. (Elephant in the Room Warning: except when it isn’t ‘permanent and lifelong’ – but we are steadfastly refusing to talk about that.) Opponents, however, challenge this claim from the bishops.

I found myself feeling a bit sorry for the bishops as a group: from my ten years on the Crown Nominations Commission, I know the great emphasis we as a Church place on ‘Leadership’. Yet when bishops exercise even a smidgen, all hell breaks loose. Do we want our chief pastors to develop their thinking based on theological reflection and pastoral encounter and then exercise some ‘Leadership’ about it, or not?

As with most things, we’ve been here before.

Edward Lee Hicks (1843-1919) was Bishop of Lincoln from 1910 to his death in 1919. He is not a well-known figure in Anglican history. Hicks had the misfortune to follow Bishop Edward King – a figure of such devotion in certain traditions of the Church of England that he has a day in the calendar (8 March). In addition to his legendary pastoral devotion to his diocese, especially to the rural poor, King may have been the first Church of England bishop openly to wear a mitre since the Reformation  – yes, a mitre! – a pretty commonplace practice now even amongst some of the most evangelical on the episcopal bench,  such as the Bishop of Lancaster and the former Bishop of Blackburn. In the late nineteenth century, however, wearing a mitre was a Massive Thing, and at the instigation of the Church Association (an ancestor of the Church Society), King was prosecuted for all manner of now-unexceptional Anglican liturgical practices, such as lighting candles in daylight and making the sign of the cross at the blessing. The statue honouring King in Lincoln Cathedral celebrates his transgressive liturgical behaviour rather gleefully.

Hicks was also transgressive in his thinking but about something – and here I speak as a good High Church woman – considerably more important than tat. He was a member of the Commission in the early twentieth century revising the 1662 Book of Common Prayer, which in the end became the 1928 ‘deposited’ Prayer Book. Parliament, as readers of this blog no doubt know, refused to approve the book, causing a Church/State crisis that was still talked about in wounded tones when I arrived in England as a graduate student in 1979. Nonetheless, from the late 1920s onwards, the revised book was probably used more in the public worship of the Established Church than the 1662, in an impressive collective act of episcopally-sanctioned grassroots passive resistance throughout the Church of England.

Hicks was committed to equality for women and in 1912 became president of the Church League for Women’s Suffrage, a group working to put laywomen on the same footing as laymen in Church councils. Over many years on the Commission to revise the Book of Common Prayer he worked to have the word ‘obey’ removed from the marriage service and replaced with equal vows for the couple – as Common Worship does. He argued further for the use of 1 Corinthians 13 at weddings in place of Ephesians 5 to avoid any suggestion that the wife is not her husband’s equal. An unscientific sample (that is, my own 30+ years of officiating at marriages – oops – Holy Matrimony[2]), 1 Corinthians 13 is very popular – I’ve never had a request for Ephesians 5. In the end, Hicks got his reform – his change in the ‘doctrine of marriage’ – with the option to have equal vows included in the 1928 Prayer Book provision. Needless to say, no woman would be forced not to vow to obey.  I hope that the irony of that last sentence is not lost on anyone.

Change, as we are seeing with LLF, is incremental in the life of the Church. The 1928 Prayer Book made no provision for the exchange of two rings – another liturgical expression of the equality of the couple and included the ‘giving away’ of the bride – both changes in Common Worship. I have spent some time trying to track down when two rings become the norm in England but have failed – there is a Master’s thesis topic waiting for someone! Despite neither the English or American 1928 Prayer Books making provision for it, the doyen of mid-twentieth century Anglican liturgists, Massey Shepherd, suggested that exchanging two rings was becoming ‘frequent’ in the American Episcopal Church in the 1950s.[3]

Nothing exists in a vacuum, and it is important to place the ‘obey’ debate of the 1910-20s in its historic context alongside not only women’s wider political and educational rights, but their inclusion in new Church governance structures, such as Parochial Church Councils and the forerunner of the General Synod, the Church Assembly. Laywomen were excluded from these new bodies. The opponents to equal vows did not use the language of complementarianism but that of good old-fashioned inequality and subordinationism. In the first decades of the twentieth-century, vocal opposition to equal vows came largely from the Anglo-Catholic quarter, based on a clear assumption of the inequality of the sexes. Athelstan Riley told the Church’s National Assembly in 1930 that:

… in 1923 when the cry of equality between the sexes was at its height, a short measure was pressed putting husband and wife on an equal footing – a cruel and wicked act. There was and could be no equality in matters of sexual morality between men and women. It had pleased God to create a profound inequality; in temptation, in the results of sin to the individual [pregnancy out of wedlock?] … and eventually to society at large.[4]

It is good to be reminded what a new kid on the block complementarianism is in the gender debates.

Overshadowed by King, Hicks deserves to be better known. Most importantly for our current discussions of LGBT+ inclusion, the beginning of his theological change on the ‘doctrine of marriage’ had been brought about, in the best Anglican way, by pastoral encounter:  a young couple, whose marriage he was to solemnize, requested the omission of ‘obey’ and that the bride not be ‘given away’ by her father. Hicks’ diary records his puzzlement at the request, but it clearly started him thinking. The year, dear reader, was 1914.[5]

In the early 20th century, an Anglican bishop was promoting the view that marriage – or Holy Matrimony as we now apparently must call it – was a union of equals and he managed to move the needle in terms of the Church’s expression of doctrine in its public liturgy. How many members of the General Synod realize what a departure from the 1662 Prayer Book’s ‘doctrine of marriage’, equal vows, not being ‘given away’, and the exchange of two rings, expresses? Heaven forbid, that pastoral encounter should be divorced (I choose that word deliberately) from the shaping of doctrine and pastoral practice.

References:
[1] General Synod 9 Feb 2023 (at c 3.22).
[2] The House of Bishops’ paper on LLF, GS2289, argues that the civil understanding of marriage has departed from the Church’s for the first time by Parliament’s introduction of equal marriage in 2013. This is a remarkable statement, given the bishops’ statement that ‘Holy Matrimony is between one man and one woman for life’ and the fact that British people have been able to divorce and re-marry multiple times for decades (see p. 10).
[3] Massey Hamilton Shepherd, The Oxford American Prayer Book Commentary (OUP, 1955), pp. 301-303.
[4] Cited in Timothy Willem Jones, ‘Love, Honour and Obey?  Romance, Subordination and Marital Subjectivity in Interwar Britain’ in A. Harris and T. Jones, eds, Love and Romance in Britain, 1915-1970 (Palgrave, 2014), p. 130; an exceptionally good article on the ‘obey’ question in the Church of England. Jones notes that several interwar clergymen reported not using asymmetrical vows before the introduction of the alternative service (p. 128). See also his splendid book, Sexual Politics in the Church of England 1857-1957 (Oxford, 2013).
[5] See The Diaries of Edward Lee Hicks, Bishop of Lincoln 1910-1919 (Lincoln Record Society, 82, 1993), p. 89 and Graham Neville, Radical Churchman:  Edward Lee Hicks and the New Liberalism (Oxford, 1998), p. 169.

Comments

9 responses to “Equal Marriage – 1928 Style”

  1. Eric Foxford avatar
    Eric Foxford

    Thank you for your research & work on this subject. I read it with great interest. As a same sex married man myself I am disappointed that as one of the faithful I still cannot marry in church.
    Each time I hear the wedding banns being read of an intended couple read out in my local church, more often than not I am painfully reminded, the happy couple have never attended our church before marriage & if history is repeated will never attend again. The wedding ceremony being merely “ the icing on the cake”.
    It hurts us that flowers can be blest, dogs are blest, donkeys are blest, but my partner and I of 34 faithful years together & now husband of 4 years, until now cannot be blest, without it causing a schism in the church.
    We still cannot marry in the church we’ve attended & financially supported over the past 20 years.
    We have to leave our civil wedding at the front door before we enter our church to worship.
    Where, is the love of God & Christ in the hearts of those diehard religious bureaucrats who deny two loving same sex couples from marrying in their parish church, in which they have faithfully served for so many years?

  2. Mr Benjamin H Mackay avatar
    Mr Benjamin H Mackay

    Bishop Hicks was way ahead of his time. Perhaps one day, more people will know the sacrifices he made and what he endured.

  3. minidvr avatar

    A timely reminder of Church History. I first became an Anglican in 2008 after many years as a lapsed Roman Catholic. Having got out of the habit of worship using the missal, I first encountered Common Worship, and than the 1662 BCP. Common Worship was quite easily adapted too, given it was closely related (in my view) to my previous Missal experience. But the 1662 BCP was a revelation. Traditional Language and the whole of it in a little black book covering all our possible needs. And adherents to it appeared to be quite appreciative of it and even organised through the Prayer Book Society formed specifically to retain both the legally ordained status and promoting and protecting its continuous use into the future. And while I had married elsewhere, I could appreciate the content of the marriage service of the BCP, which gave a straight forward option for marriage, quite unlike the small numbers of marriages that I witnessed under Common Worship, which permitted a bit of flexibility in interpretation. So, when my spouse and I decided to renew our wedding vows we chose Common Worship over the BCP, particularly as my spouse was not inclined to obey me ever. I now adore the BCP sitting alongside and equal to Common Worship, particularly the Communion Service and Evensong, which I have the privilege of participating in as a Licenced Reader (with PTO) in my parish. I have learned most of this by heart and the familiar words are comfortable on the lips and are meaningful in a different way from Common Worship. I suspect that the “Doctrine of Marriage” debate will run and run, whatever happens with the LLF debate. But I hope that we don’t abandon the BCP as one outcome. It is still relevant and worthy of use and as we have at least two, well attended BCP Communion services in our Parish, as a Church we must not abandon those faithful adherents and deny its use for the younger generations on the basis that it is outdated, out of fashion and uses strange language.

  4. Ian Black avatar
    Ian Black

    From memory, anecdotally as a chorister, exchanging rings came in some time in the 1970s and 80s so that by 1986 it was natural for us to exchange them and dump obeying. In 30 years of ordained ministry I think I have met only one couple who has wanted to include obey (they worshipped at St Helen’s Bishopgate) and next to none of them have viewed the woman as being anyone’s chattel.

  5. Christine Allsopp avatar
    Christine Allsopp

    We married in St Albans Abbey in 1970. The Sub-Dean explained the options to us and we certainly did not get the impression that we were among the first to opt for two rings and omit ‘obey’.

  6. Charles Hefling avatar
    Charles Hefling

    Dr. Maltby writes, as usual, lucidly and convincingly. To add a footnote to her footnote #2, it could be — and has been — argued that as far as the Church of England is concerned, “the civil understanding of marriage … departed from the Church’s for the first time” as long ago as 1907, when the Deceased Wife’s Sister’s Marriage Act took effect. Not until 1946, according to the Oxford Dictionary of the Christian Church, were the C. of E. Canons amended so as to allow what civil law allowed.

  7. John Beaverstock avatar
    John Beaverstock

    There are also the bits about ‘brute beasts that have no understanding’ and ‘remedy against sin, and to avoid fornication’. Not to mention the pastoral sensitivity of the rubric ‘When the woman is past childbearing’. Often we look at BCP through rose-coloured spectacles. Thank you for your well-argued article.

  8. David Hawkins avatar
    David Hawkins

    Judith Maltby
    One of the advantages of living in Germany is that you get to see what a very strange place England is. A Church that is such a firm advocate of “Holy Matrimony” was actually founded to facilitate the divorce of Henry VIII, a King who also favoured divorce by execution. We shouldn’t be surprised I suppose. The Defender of the (Roman Catholic) Faith must by law be a Protestant. To follow in the long line of questionable moral choices Westminster Abbey lowered it’s flag to mourn the death of a Saudi King who banned to practice of Christianity. Of course the founder of the Church of England was also very keen on public beheading, but our church was not so enthusiastic when it happened to Charles I.

  9. Clare Amos avatar
    Clare Amos

    In some so-called ‘Christian organisations’ that ‘unequal’ understanding of heterosexual marriage lingered long after the 1928 prayer book revisions. It still may continue in some parts of the C of E. I still vividly remember the discrimination I experienced at the hands of the Church Missionary Society as a married woman missionary in the 1970s and 1980s. It veered on the abusive. And I can only describe as demonic the treatment I received from the organisation when I sought to challenge its attitudes and behaviours. I was firmly rebuked by a senior staff member who explained that CMS treated me and other married women missionaries in the way that it did ‘because it believed in Christian marriage’. ‘Christian marriage’ was understood in its circles as a model of marriage in which the wife was expected to be submissive to the husband and sacrifice her own professional vocation to be his side-kick and domestic support. I don’t feel that CMS has ever really accepted responsibility for the way it which it behaved or sought to make amends.

Any thoughts?