Living in Love and Faith: Where is the Power?

by Revd Ruth Harley (Vicar, Cowgate and Priest in Charge, Newbiggin Hall)

Back at the start of the Living in Love and Faith process (LLF), one of the more useful resources to be produced was the ‘Pastoral Principles’ – a set of six concepts intended to enable better conversations across difference. One of the Pastoral Principles was “pay attention to power”. And yet, as we take in the latest update on LLF from the House of Bishops, it seems evident that little if any attention has really been paid to power in the course of the LLF process.

Power is a slippery thing. It hides in plain sight, and works in ways which can be hard to grasp. And yet, if we do actually pay attention to power, and name how power is being used in in a particular situation, it can be deeply revealing.

Power is an important theological concept. We speak of God as omnipotent – all powerful. We read Paul’s description of “Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God.” We might hear someone describe “the Holy Spirit moving powerfully” in a particular church or event. But what kind of power is this? Very often we don’t stop to examine it too closely. And unexamined power is always dangerous.

I am not, here, attempting to offer a fully worked-out theology of power (for that, I recommend Anna Mercedes’ excellent book Power For). But I do want to consider the role of power which has led to this latest set of decisions from the House of Bishops.

Sometimes it is helpful to separate out the church’s “espoused theology” – what we say we believe – from its “operant theology” – what the things we do and how we do them reveal about what we believe. Where those two theologies are at odds, it can be very revealing.

The church’s espoused theology of power is one of equality and justice, but also of self-abnegation, servanthood, “God’s power made perfect in human weakness”. The story we tell about how power exists in the church is one of the foot-washing, self-emptying power of love which we see in Christ.

But very often this is not the operant theology of power in the church, it is not how we really live and relate to each other. Certainly the operant theology of power in the LLF process is something very different, and if we really do pay attention to power, to how it actually works, rather than how it is spoken about, we start to see some of the theological problems underlying this latest set-back in the slow and painful process.

Firstly, the espoused theology of power contained within the LLF process is one of equality: that we all approach the process from equal positions, with equal power, with equal concerns. This is demonstrably not so. And a failure to acknowledge an imbalance of power always works in favour of those with whom the power already lies. The operant theology of LLF is one in which LGBTQ+ members of the church (and to a lesser extent our allies) simultaneously have less institutional power, and more at stake – our identities, livelihoods, vocations, relationships, in addition to the theological, ecclesial and missional concerns which all parties bring to the LLF process. If this inequality goes unacknowledged, as it largely has, then everything that is built on that espoused theology of equal power will be at best precarious, and at worst false and manipulative.

Secondly, the espoused theology of power within the church is one in which divine power, and therefore power within the church, functions very differently to worldly power. And yet, the attention paid to money and the threat of its withdrawal by conservative churches during the LLF process suggests a rather different operant theology.

Thirdly, there is the question of whose voice is heard, and how. The espoused theology of LLF is that all voices are heard equally. And yet… The attention given to threats of schism, threats of diminishing numbers and income, by those promoting a conservative stance on sexuality is vastly greater than that given to the many LGBTQ+ folks and allies who have quietly walked away, or who have bravely spoken about the harm done to them and to those they love by conservative and sometimes openly homophobic church teaching, whose voices remain largely unheard, silenced or ignored. The operant theology of the LLF process is that some voices are worth more than others.

Finally, there is the question of conscience. The latest update from the House of Bishops is keen to emphasise that the next stage of the process will “respect the conscience” of those opposed to using the Prayers of Love and Faith. Good – I don’t think anyone in favour of greater progress towards LGBTQ+ equality wants people to be forced or coerced into using prayers against their conscience. But the question of conscience, throughout the LLF process, only ever seems to cut one way.

There are thousands of clergy currently forced to act against their conscience, myself among them. We act against our conscience every time we explain that we can’t marry a same-sex couple who wish to celebrate their love and commitment in the presence of God. We act against our conscience when we constrain ourselves to the meagre offerings allowed by PLF, instead of celebrating and blessing the fullness of what we see God doing in the lives and loves of faithful LGBTQ+ people. The cost of overriding our conscience is a form of moral injury, and a very real harm not only to individuals but to the church as a whole. But our conscience is of no concern to the House of Bishops, it seems.

Whatever the espoused theology of the church, when the operant theology evident in the actions (or inactions) of its leadership reveals that some voices are worth more than others, some consciences more worth protecting than others, it is hard to escape the conclusion that some people are worth more than others: more fully human, more fully made in God’s image, more beloved.

That, of course, is not true. And nor is it the church’s espoused theology. But it is too often, including in the House of Bishops’ latest (in)action on LLF, the church’s operant theology. And that operant theology damages the body of Christ because, whatever kind or well-intentioned words may be said, what is felt and known and experienced as the lived reality is a deeply damaging theology of power, which tramples over the lives and loves and the very humanity of LGBTQ+ folks (yet again) in the futile search for a false unity which will allow those who already hold power to hold onto it, without needing to pay any attention at all.

 

Comments

7 responses to “Living in Love and Faith: Where is the Power?”

  1. R Prieto avatar
    R Prieto

    The manipulative power of victimism by those who betrayed their conciences promising to teach and live by doctrines they did neither believe nor were planning to live by. Compounded with the effective raw power of a majority of bishops secretly conspiring with them to further their revisionist agenda, only to lately find that there are limitations to how far and fast they want to go. Please take a minute to consider this perspective.

    1. JLT avatar
      JLT

      And I’m guessing you believe it to be heretical to state the earth is not flat?

  2. Fr/Dr mike Nixon avatar

    Dear Ruth – one fully shares the frustration so many are experiencing with the ever so slow prigress being made towards recognising that folk with SS attractions are very much a part of God’s creation. Recent genetic research is beginning to show us that the broad spectrum of sexual attractions is “normal” – As always the church is slow to catch up with the way the Holy Spirit leads us forward into deeper understanding of the amazing diversity of our universe. Still so much more to revealed. Jn 16:f stay strong – keep smiling, praying and advocating for justice for all.

  3. Dr Penelope Meunier-Brock avatar
    Dr Penelope Meunier-Brock

    It would be helpful if people stopped using the phrase SS attraction. We are talking about love, long term commitment and the desire to be joined in Holy Matrimony by God. The love two people have for each other is no different whether they are of the same sex or not. We are tragically using power to undermine and diminish something that God has put in people’s hearts. God is love, it is God’s love that they feel for each other.

    1. Helen King avatar
      Helen King

      That’s an interesting thought; I sometimes use the phrase because I am trying to use the language of those with whom I disagree on many points. To use the word ‘gay’ of someone who self-describes as ‘same-sex attracted’ feels wrong.

      1. tgflux avatar
        tgflux

        “someone who self-describes as ‘same-sex attracted’”

        Those (IMO) poor souls, however, are not the ones seeking “long term commitment and the desire to be joined in Holy Matrimony by God.” As such, they are really irrelevant to this particular debate.

  4. julesareader avatar
    julesareader

    Thank you for sharing. I have spent years “playing nice” against my conscience, although I am not dependent on the church for my living. I have always been “encouraged” not to “rock the boat”, but to work quietly within the institution as that, I was told, is the best way to achieve change! And see where we have come to! Such a wasted opportunity for greater loving acceptance and inclusion!

Any thoughts?