The Failure of Living in Love and Faith: a Glimpse of the Blindingly Obvious

by David Nixon, a recently retired priest and Area Dean, a Prebendary emeritus, and Honorary Senior Research Fellow at Exeter University

I have just experienced what my sister has always termed a GBO – a Glimpse of the Blindingly Obvious. In other words, blindingly obvious for everyone else except for the one who experiences it, for whom it comes as a penny-dropping moment, another useful phrase. The risk of sharing this with you is that it’s only me for whom this is interesting or startling or revelatory, and everybody else says: “Yep, uh-hah”. But I’m going to take that risk, just in case.

And the GBO is this: that the failure (and it really ought not to be called anything other than this) of the Living in Love and Faith (LLF) project or process is linked very closely to a particular view of the Church, and its purpose, and thus to an underlying contemporary ecclesiology. I am not saying that there is no prejudice within Church circles about LGBT+ people, no homophobia (a better term would be heteronormativity, that ranking of heterosexuality as ‘better’) out of which spring some of the opposition to LLF; rather, I am saying that alongside these things, beneath them, runs a way of thinking about Church which made and makes progress with LLF almost impossible. This would explain the ability of well-meaning bishops to issues words of condolence, as if on the passing of a dear mutual friend, at the same time as ensuring that LGBT+ people continue to feel as if they are travelling steerage on the ecclesial equivalent of the Titanic. The ecclesiological predisposition of many bishops (and others) means that to act in full favour of LLF would run counter to how they perceive the task and the role of the Church of England now, and so would land them in an uncomfortable contradiction. Better to ditch LLF progress than to have to admit that the ecclesiology might be faulty. To use another image, the bishops’ ecclesiological garment risks being called out as illusory, nothing more than the emperor’s new clothes, whose vanity is always pricked by one of the children, the ‘small ones’. A minor act of infanticide might be worth the opprobrium. Let me explain more fully.

To be slightly fairer to LLF, by comparison to Issues in Human Sexuality (1991) and the 1998 Lambeth resolutions, having a liturgy to bless same-sex couples as part of an existing act of worship in church and the pastoral letter from bishops in 2026 is a remarkable (albeit slow) achievement. Often overlooked however is the theological process of LLF, which is even more surprising, so much so that this in itself justified a pause if not a halt. One of the many criticisms of Issues is that it positioned differently the voices and experiences of LGBT+ people and those of doctors, psychologists and biologists, so that the latter group were regarded as experts commenting on the lives of others. Later reports ameliorated this to some extent, but the control of the House of Bishops over the debate, and the terms of the debate, remained rigid. Bishop Gene Robinson’s comment on the Lambeth Commission which produced the later Windsor Report in 2004 remains apposite: imagine, he suggested, a commission about sexism composed only of men, or one about racism with no Black people, yet it was deemed acceptable for a commission about sexuality to have no gay or lesbian representatives. By contrast, LLF foregrounded the lives of a range of LGBT+ people, alongside sociological and cultural analysis (‘Paying attention: What is going on?’) within a more expansive theological framework. More technically, this was nearer to the inductive method of Liberation Theology, working from human experience to interpret doctrine, rather than setting out a universal scheme to be imposed deductively on every given situation. The risk, perhaps intended, perhaps not fully understood, was that by contrast to previous reports and commissions, the bishops might lose control of the process.

And then there are the bigger ecclesiological issues.

The direction of travel at present in the Church of England is towards a public theology based on discipleship rather than citizenship. This contrasts the Church as a counter-cultural reality not answerable to secular demands with an institution engaged with a pluralist, secular state aiming for the common good underlying universal human principles. Church priorities summarised as ‘simpler, humbler, bolder’ emphasise the growth of numbers of disciples through missionary endeavour, and set a variety of targets. The language of ‘disciple’ and ‘mission’ abounds.

Superficially, there is nothing to argue with here: who would not want the Church to grow, to become more diverse, and for parishes to be revitalised? Yet a modicum of reflection suggests that this is very Church-centric, institutionally and structurally focussed, and that the parishes and disciples are there to maintain and support the Church as an organisation. There is little here about creating and sustaining loving and compassionate communities which engage the wider world in uncertain times, little also about the Kingdom of God as a purpose and goal, and of the Church as a means of helping to deliver this. Public theology as primarily outwardly focussed, beyond the Church and into (for example) the worlds of work, study and leisure is much diminished. And so ultimately the ministry which the Church envisages and for which it forms its clergy is also diminished. The upshot of this is that the Church becomes an end in itself, another institution (like the Post Office?) whose main task is itself – reputation, growth, survival. This is actualised in the work of the Strategic Mission and Ministry Investment Board (SMMIB), whose large grants from central funds to cash-poor dioceses are made on the basis of numerical growth and clergy performance management.

This ecclesiology is weak on two fronts: there is a misinterpretation of both incarnation and eschatology. The concept of Jesus as both human and divine always means that a division of the world into secular or sacred space is flawed, and we have the discomfort of living overlapped in both places, or of being ‘degrounded’ as Judith Butler says. The temptation at a time of greater secularisation, of loss of Church authority and influence, of scandal and financial threat is to withdraw to apparent safety; but as Bonhoeffer insists in his Ethics, there is ‘nowhere to retreat from the world’. It is again Bonhoeffer who points up the eschatological weakness of a Church that appears to be ‘only for its self-preservation, as though that were an end in itself’ (Letters and Papers from Prison). It is not simply the paucity of vision that cannot see beyond its own bounds (an advance parochialisation), but a failure to glimpse the transformations of the Kingdom, and an attempt to restrict God. If the Church is at the centre, God is at the margins, and a neo-colonial mindset seeks to assert control over God too.

How does this relate to the failure of LLF? A Church focussed internally may mean it is reluctant to engage in the messy territory of human sexualities, not least when there is the scandal of abuse, and deep and acrimonious divisions of opinion. At worst, this can become a reiteration of the purity/pollution trope, in which the disciples who are to be sought and nurtured are there to form a model community of idealised heterosexuals, where all those who fall outside quite a narrow definition are not only unwelcome, but also serve to establish where those boundaries lie – you may think I am caricaturing here, but look at the photos on the Church of England website about Weddings. The Church as counter-cultural institution means that it does not have to follow the direction of society in terms of accepting different sexualities, and rejecting these may be a marker of belonging to an alternative ecclesial reality.

A retreat to comfort and security (nostalgia even) is understandable, but we are called to so much more than this. Allied to a desire to take charge again of the LLF process, it is hardly surprising that given this predominant ecclesiology LLF has not fulfilled its aims.

If there is room for hope here, it lies in the continuing rhetoric of a public theology of citizenship, where pastoral care is delivered because there is need, where schools and communities are supported simply because they are there, where lay people and clergy say their prayers within and on behalf of their parishes because they are centred on a God of love, compassion and mercy.

Although a citizenship model of public theology is probably more favourable to LGBT+ people, there is hope too in the internal contradictions of the contemporary discipleship policy. There is an admirable wish for the Church to be more attractive to families and young people at the same time as a recognition that the Church’s position towards LGBT+ people is deeply off-putting (Pilling Report 2013). Same-sex marriage in a civil context has been available since 2013 so that today’s ‘young people’ have come of age knowing nothing different, and so find it difficult to understand why this is problematic in the Church of England. Parishes reflecting the rich diversity of the communities they serve is again an excellent aspiration, but in terms of LGBT+ people, this can still mean being less than fully included. The Church rightly supports stable long-term committed relationships but explicitly withdraws this support for non-heterosexual marriage.

The hope is that such weight causes the structure to wobble or topple. I would caution against any thought of ‘the final big push’ over the barricades – rather it is the unwelcome but necessary task of LGBT+ people and their supporters (the cost of our discipleship) to keep saying clearly that present policies are like the emperor’s new clothes: threadbare. Or at the risk of mixing metaphors, like a Jenga tower, from which each piece is being gradually removed.

 

[I am grateful to Canon Mike Williams for his insights about public theology, but the link to LLF is entirely my own thinking.]

Comments

8 responses to “The Failure of Living in Love and Faith: a Glimpse of the Blindingly Obvious”

  1. David Hawkins avatar
    David Hawkins

    In November of last year I was privileged to attend the joyful enthronement of a Lesbian woman as Archbishop of Wales. That of course would have been inconceivable in England and I believe we need to ask why the sister Anglican Churches in Wales and England have developed with radically different attitudes to Lesbian and Gay Clergy and Laity.
    The first issue is who is selected to be ordained as Church of England bishops. Why are the majority of Church of England bishops homophobic ? Is this reflective of a homophobic national church of England or does it reflect bias in the selection process for the bench of Bishops? The selection process seems to be extremely opaque and I believe the first step would be to shine some light into how it operates and who has power and who doesn’t.
    The Church of England is not just any church. It is the Established Church of England giving it the right to nominate members of our upper house of parliament and crown our head of state. Is it acceptable that an institution with so much symbolic power should be openly homophobic when as a state Britain decided long ago that homophobia was a social evil ?
    I raise these issues because I believe that it will be very hard and probably impossible for the Church of England to rid itself of the evil of homophobia without pressure from outside. Every Church of England Bishop has to be approved by our Head of State. Can we assume from that that King Charles approves of Institutional Homophobia ?

    1. T1 avatar
      T1

      If there was ‘homophobia’ not even PLF prayers within services for same sex couples would have been approved by Synod. Remember too the C of E also has bigger congregations and more giving from them than the Church in Wales, especially in its conservative evangelical churches

  2. Joe Hawes avatar
    Joe Hawes

    Absolutely on point David, thank you.

  3. Lynn Grove avatar
    Lynn Grove

    I am reminded of the story of The Grand Inquisitor in The Brothers Karamazov.
    Thank you for sharing your thought – you have given form to the reflections I’ve been struggling to articulate.

  4. Andrew Godsall avatar
    Andrew Godsall

    Thank you David for carefully articulating, in a measured and eirenic tone, what many of us are feeling very angry indeed about – the failure of the bishops to actually show some positive thinking rather than retreating to what they perceive to be a safe space. That space is in fact very much on the cliff edge and liable to collapse in to the sea at any time. It is propped up simply by the funds made available through SMMIB which you so rightly critique.

  5. Akathartos avatar
    Akathartos

    “The direction of travel at present in the Church of England is toward a public theology based on discipleship rather than citizenship”. Yet, again, we have a link with how Islam views the World! Those responsible for this ‘drift’ are precisely the same people who consider our Christian scriptures to be our equivalent of the Koran. I know I bang on about this: but the parallels are spooky. And those espousing them lack the intelligence to realise what they are doing……or, do they?

  6. T1 avatar
    T1

    If LLF had really failed it would never have been passed at all, conservative evangelicals would have defeated even that on Synod but they did not. Prayers within services for same sex couples are allowed and there are plenty of churches doing great parish outreach with foodbanks, concerts and schools ministry too as well as the services, weddings, baptisms and funerals they do

  7. Tim Evans avatar
    Tim Evans

    Thanks for this article. The tendency you outline is of a piece with the approach taken in the 2004 Mission Shaped Church report, which had such a disastrous impact on centralised church policy and decision making. Again it was the focus on the institution before the Kingdom that was so misplaced and which led to a greater distinction between the realm of the holy (the church) and the realm of the profane (the world.).

Any thoughts?